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I accept the statement of Pastor Eric Obigho as true that ‘Man was created first for relationship before responsibility.’ If all that you do in life is carry out responsibilities without developing relationships, you will end up a failure and your memory will fade away when you die. Apart from your relationship with God (that is if you are smart enough to accept that a Creator exists), the second most vital relationship in your life is the person you will get married/you are married too.
There are things that people do wrong that end up breaking these vital relationship in their lives; my desire is that you will not make the same mistake. There is a therefore a need for you to be knowledgeable, because relationships don’t just succeed, it requires the individuals involve in it to do things right. Here are five things that I have over the years observe destroy relationships…
Wrong use of words- Words are powerful; they have the ability to create and destroy. I believe strongly that a large number of relationships that broke were because of the use of foul words by either/both parties involved. One of the relationships I broke up with before I got married was because the lady in question used a foul word on me that my ego couldn’t tolerate, so I moved on.
Men are egocentric by nature, they can’t stand words by their partners which are aimed at comparing them in a demeaning manner with another person and they can’t stand their partners using authoritative words on them. While their female counterpart can’t stand the use of insultive words.
You need to learn to use your discretion; as a lady in being honest to your partner about your past, you don’t go telling him that twenty men had slept with you. I believe that some of the troubles between wives and their in-laws after marriage stems from the men they were dating not managing information about their families properly.
Premarital sex- Sheriff Shomade said, ‘There is nothing as sweet as sexual intercourse (when it is done outside of the confine of marriage) on the face of the earth, but it’s a perilous slide to destruction.’ Every time you allow anyone have the attention of your genital that you are not married to, you loose something. One of the things you will loose is the foundation of a successful relationship which is trust. I read a statistics once that states that over 51% of couples who are divorced were sexually involved with one another before marriage.
Sexual intercourse outside of the confine of marriage may look harmless, but it’s really destructive in the long run on the relationship that you are trying to keep. I will like to share with every lady that will read this article this truth, men are likely to get married to women that they trust in the area of sexual intercourse than the ones that they have feelings people call love for. I also want every lady involve in sexual intercourse to prove me wrong, that if you stop allowing your partner from getting sexually involve with you again, the relationship will naturally disintegrate. When you allowed him to get sexually involved with you, you shifted his attention from you to your genitals and permit me to say this, most men love free non committed sex.
Being irresponsible- People want a partner that is responsible in the area of productivity; we all are proud when we can say to others how well our partners are doing. No one wants to marry/stay with a leach after marriage.
One thing every man should know about women is, they hate their man be a dependant. They hate it when their partner survive on the good will of others instead of his own productivity; you find a wife beaming with life when her man is hard working, though he may not be rich yet.
I also feel I should write in the article that every singles ladies should be productive; depending on a man to buy you things and pay your bills is a sign of being irresponsible. Often a time men leave will leave a relationship that they feel they are being burdened in; you should work so that no man will be able to treat you like a piece of furniture he paid for with his money.
What people hide- The statement Jesus made is true, he said ‘There is nothing hidden under the heaven.’ What people hide comes to hunt them and often times it destroys them. Marriages have come to end when one of the party discover that the person he/she is married to have a skeleton in their cupboard that they didn’t reveal them until it came out.
I heard the story of a man who discovered two days before his wedding day that his fiancée has two children in the past relationship she was involved in without mentioning it to him at any time in the relationship. He walked out of the marriage arrangement.
My question to you is; what are you hiding? My honest opinion is that you discuss it with your partner as soon as possible before he/she gets to hear about it from other places; the reason is because people have a way of buttressing stories beyond what actually happened.
Unforgiveness- The English adage that says, ‘To err is human, to forgive divine’ is true. In relationship if either/both of don’t have a forgiven heart, the relationship will naturally disintegrate.
In relationship, you will hurt and be hurt. Some times the hurt you will get from your partner may be intentional and most of the times it will not be intentional; if you have not developed a forgiving nature, the pain you will experience may bring an end to your relationship. If you’re given to keeping records of wrongs that are done to you, you are preparing yourself for a failed relationship.
I accept the statement of Pastor Eric Obigho as true that ‘Man was created first for relationship before responsibility.’ If all that you do in life is carry out responsibilities without developing relationships, you will end up a failure and your memory will fade away when you die. Apart from your relationship with God (that is if you are smart enough to accept that a Creator exists), the second most vital relationship in your life is the person you will get married/you are married too.
There are things that people do wrong that end up breaking these vital relationship in their lives; my desire is that you will not make the same mistake. There is a therefore a need for you to be knowledgeable, because relationships don’t just succeed, it requires the individuals involve in it to do things right. Here are five things that I have over the years observe destroy relationships…
Wrong use of words- Words are powerful; they have the ability to create and destroy. I believe strongly that a large number of relationships that broke were because of the use of foul words by either/both parties involved. One of the relationships I broke up with before I got married was because the lady in question used a foul word on me that my ego couldn’t tolerate, so I moved on.
Men are egocentric by nature, they can’t stand words by their partners which are aimed at comparing them in a demeaning manner with another person and they can’t stand their partners using authoritative words on them. While their female counterpart can’t stand the use of insultive words.
You need to learn to use your discretion; as a lady in being honest to your partner about your past, you don’t go telling him that twenty men had slept with you. I believe that some of the troubles between wives and their in-laws after marriage stems from the men they were dating not managing information about their families properly.
Premarital sex- Sheriff Shomade said, ‘There is nothing as sweet as sexual intercourse (when it is done outside of the confine of marriage) on the face of the earth, but it’s a perilous slide to destruction.’ Every time you allow anyone have the attention of your genital that you are not married to, you loose something. One of the things you will loose is the foundation of a successful relationship which is trust. I read a statistics once that states that over 51% of couples who are divorced were sexually involved with one another before marriage.
Sexual intercourse outside of the confine of marriage may look harmless, but it’s really destructive in the long run on the relationship that you are trying to keep. I will like to share with every lady that will read this article this truth, men are likely to get married to women that they trust in the area of sexual intercourse than the ones that they have feelings people call love for. I also want every lady involve in sexual intercourse to prove me wrong, that if you stop allowing your partner from getting sexually involve with you again, the relationship will naturally disintegrate. When you allowed him to get sexually involved with you, you shifted his attention from you to your genitals and permit me to say this, most men love free non committed sex.
Being irresponsible- People want a partner that is responsible in the area of productivity; we all are proud when we can say to others how well our partners are doing. No one wants to marry/stay with a leach after marriage.
One thing every man should know about women is, they hate their man be a dependant. They hate it when their partner survive on the good will of others instead of his own productivity; you find a wife beaming with life when her man is hard working, though he may not be rich yet.
I also feel I should write in the article that every singles ladies should be productive; depending on a man to buy you things and pay your bills is a sign of being irresponsible. Often a time men leave will leave a relationship that they feel they are being burdened in; you should work so that no man will be able to treat you like a piece of furniture he paid for with his money.
What people hide- The statement Jesus made is true, he said ‘There is nothing hidden under the heaven.’ What people hide comes to hunt them and often times it destroys them. Marriages have come to end when one of the party discover that the person he/she is married to have a skeleton in their cupboard that they didn’t reveal them until it came out.
I heard the story of a man who discovered two days before his wedding day that his fiancée has two children in the past relationship she was involved in without mentioning it to him at any time in the relationship. He walked out of the marriage arrangement.
My question to you is; what are you hiding? My honest opinion is that you discuss it with your partner as soon as possible before he/she gets to hear about it from other places; the reason is because people have a way of buttressing stories beyond what actually happened.
Unforgiveness- The English adage that says, ‘To err is human, to forgive divine’ is true. In relationship if either/both of don’t have a forgiven heart, the relationship will naturally disintegrate.
In relationship, you will hurt and be hurt. Some times the hurt you will get from your partner may be intentional and most of the times it will not be intentional; if you have not developed a forgiving nature, the pain you will experience may bring an end to your relationship. If you’re given to keeping records of wrongs that are done to you, you are preparing yourself for a failed relationship.
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